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Post by daniel on Oct 3, 2010 19:47:34 GMT -8
Love at first sight? No. Infatuation at first sight? Yes. ^ this Love is something that needs to grow, mature, and ultimately be tested -- that can't happen in the course of a second. ^ and this, for me at least, most of the time, I think I think there are two types of love- the romantic feeling type and the reasoned or developed one. I think the romantic type can be at first sight or meeting and it is for a lot of people. The deeper love develops from that over time as Less.Than.Three described. It's such a personal thing that I wouldn't want to say that either is less valid than the other for someone else. A lot of people might call that initial deep attraction love, while others call it infatuation. I would call it infatuation, but that's my own personal assessment. If I was eighty years old and married to the girl I was infatuated with since first sight you'd better believe I'd call it love at first sight.
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Post by Kami on Oct 3, 2010 23:05:13 GMT -8
love at first sight? no, i don't think so. but i do believe in instant connection - be it romantic or platonic. since we're talking 'love', i'll go with my romantic explanation:
as alisha said on page one, real love takes some time to mature and grow. how much time is necessary, i think, is based on the individuals involved. also, keep in mind, true love must be reciprocated. there's unrequited love, but true love involves both parties - otherwise, how true is it? but a connection - a connection can be instantaneous. i see some people saying that love at first sight is just about physical attraction, but that's not true. in a split second, we make judgments and decisions about everyone we see, from their looks to their demeanor. for example, i could see someone that's drop-dead, george-clooney-like-handsome, that's bitching at a waiter for messing up an order. in that instant, i'd probably pass judgment as, "wow, that person is rude!" regardless of how physically attractive he is.
a connection is definitely possible in that split instant... whether or not it develops into a lasting love, on the other hand, must stand the test of time.
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Post by carmend on Oct 3, 2010 23:31:10 GMT -8
No! Love is a powerful emotion that needs time to develop.
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Post by Wormopolis on Oct 3, 2010 23:58:24 GMT -8
If you dont believe at love at first sight, I can just walk by again...
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Post by Kami on Oct 4, 2010 0:13:12 GMT -8
If you dont believe at love at first sight, I can just walk by again... cheeky. xD
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Post by Søren on Oct 4, 2010 9:13:35 GMT -8
I like to think love at first sight is real but love is to strong word. but there are times when i think you feel connect to someone for some unknown reason
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Post by Dumezil on Oct 4, 2010 12:26:28 GMT -8
Lol, hell no! Then again, I don't even believe in love... at least not for me. And I am MORE than happy with that. <3
Maybe for others it exists. I don't know.
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Post by Former Member on Oct 4, 2010 12:28:12 GMT -8
Not love, lust at first sight
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Post by The Count on Oct 4, 2010 13:04:43 GMT -8
I think there can be a very large attraction at first site, but not love.
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Post by Rick Ace on Oct 4, 2010 13:20:08 GMT -8
The question is kinda obious. But is there such a thing? *looks at you for the first time* .... I love You!!!! Now how does that sound? Does that answer your question?
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Post by Beck on Oct 4, 2010 16:33:46 GMT -8
Like most others I believe in lust and attraction at first sight, but not love at first sight. You can't love a person before you get to know them, but that attraction can certainly grow into love. That would give the impression of it being love at first sight when really it wasn't, it just grew into that.
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Post by AndrettiFan on Oct 4, 2010 17:38:32 GMT -8
Not love, lust at first sight That leads to stalking, as you are at that point.
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Post by Former Member on Oct 5, 2010 1:08:43 GMT -8
Thirded....
People can be interesting at first site...
I do believe that there can be LUST at first site though and some people seem to think that lust is love...
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Post by bagheera on Oct 5, 2010 4:23:57 GMT -8
Interest and attraction at first sight that can easily develop into love when you actually get to know each other, yes. Not love, because that takes time to grow. I tend to fall for people whose minds and thoughts I greatly admire and respect. I'm not going to get into a philosophical or deep conversation the very first time I meet most people. So I might be able to tell, "Huh, he's deep and thoughtful, I like it" but I can't go "ZOMG I LOVE HIM" until I know a lot more about him. (Or her.)
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Post by Zephyr on Oct 5, 2010 5:40:05 GMT -8
I think people have too black and white a view of love, it's not as simple as so many people make it out to be. There are no guidelines on how you fall in love. It's an emotion and everyone is different. I also don't think it's the same for everyone who can justifiably claim to be in love with someone.
Having said that love at first sight is a strange idea. You look at a lot of people you never talk to. How many people have looked at someone and been compelled to talk to them because they've immediately fallen for them? How many people have looked at someone, fallen in love with them, and then never seen them again because they didn't have an opportunity to talk to them? How many of those people are still in love with the person they saw? You'd sound pretty crazy if you spent your whole life longing after the girl you saw stepping onto a bus.
Maybe when people say "It was love at first sight." they mean they knew they were going to fall in love with that person.
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