he's so sad.

[punksnotdead]

So, I know this will sound pretty effin' lame, but I honestly do not care. I really am hoping I dont break any rules, but anyway,
I know this guy and he's uberly sweet (no this isnt a "I like him, help me tell him," thing) and he just broke up with his girlfriend, or rather she broke up with him.
They've been together for like, three years and it's tearing him apart..
He's smoking && drinking more than ever, and he's even thought about suicide..
He's really really depressed, and I can't help him by buying him ice cream or hugging him because it's more serious than that.
I want to do something for him (and no, no sexual stuff, so don't go there, idiots) that'd make him really happy.
He's a huge Nirvana fan, and likes that type of music.. but that still isnt' good enough.
I really can't make a collage of Nirvana pictures or whatnot 'cause he's not into that stuff.
I want something really huge that I can do..
I'm not sure what and I need ideas...
Any ideas, anybody?
I'm really really really really really really really really really really really really really trying to help cheer him up..
he's soo sad..
And I dont think he wants to convert to emo.
Er, please?

[punksnotdead]

Er. Can someone PLEASE give me an idea?

[Inkjet]

In all honesty, I don't think there is much you can do at this point in time. Give it a few weeks, then try some thing.

[MOMOTRON [dead.]]

Don't try to replace her.

[drivere]

Be a friend

[Darkness]

Show em a goodtime

[Echo - boo-jah o.o;]

Be there for him, thats really all you can do.

[Butterscotch]

All you can really do is be there for him. Just listen to him, and be his friend. I hope he pulls through his hard time.

[[K]hAoS]

Talk over the problems he is having while listening to The Used, Hawthore Heights, Taking Back Sunday etc etc etc And whatever you do don't turn your back on him for any reason

[davo]

Use the force. o.0

Or failing that you should just let him know that you're there for him. Pushing your kindness on him may not be the best idea. Just be around for when he decides he would like some help.

[punksnotdead]

thatroll2 said:

Don't try to replace her.

I'm not trying to replace her.
But, he's so in love with this girl...
It's like, she's breaking him apart and he still loves her.
I mean, he's the type of guy every girl wants and she's losing him right now, and I really don't want him doing anything stupid.

In all honesty, I don't think there is much you can do at this point in time. Give it a few weeks, then try some thing.

It has been a few weeks...

Talk over the problems he is having while listening to The Used, Hawthore Heights, Taking Back Sunday etc etc etc And whatever you do don't turn your back on him for any reason

He's too cool for that music. Pshaw.
I'm kidding, but no, he doesn't listen to them.

[~»tobi«~]

he needs to talk, even if he isnt ready right now . keep gently telling him you're there and want to help . make sure you dont abandon him out of helplessness , he might seem indifferent or angry at times but its not directed to you .. just stay close . Let him know your a friend and if he needs anything that he can get you .. The suicide talk worries me . is his family close ? And if they are i would have to break his confidence and tell them what hes thinking . if he doesnt . I myself would call a suicide help line and ask for advice ..I always take suicide talk seriously ..its a cry for help

[punksnotdead]

The suicide thing is what worries me. He's old enough to know better; he's almost twenty.
I don't want anything bad happening to him, but I want him to trust me. I don't know how to get in touch with his family, without talking to him because I only have his cell phone...
I take it seriiously, too. He's told me how he wants to do it, and it scares the dookie out of me. It really does.
He's got a lot going for him, until she decided to just break him in two, and it really really worries me...

[Lane Rendell]

Hes a Nirvana fan so get him the new box set.

Other than that jsut be a friend.