More bad news.. RIP Dad

[Miss Daisy]

hey everyone..

As you may remember, a little over a week ago I lost my cousin Cody to Diabetes. I just got a call from my grandmother, and my dad passed away about an hour ago. He was also a Type 1 Diabetic and had been waiting on a kidney transplant while on Dialysis.

All I know right now is that he's been very sick for the last few months and that he died at home in his sleep, my stepmother and younger brother were there with him.

[Brian Griffin]

I know your pain, I lost my father after he suffered a long and difficult fight with liver cancer. It's not easy, take the time you need to sort it out. I'm sure all of us will be waiting with care when you return.

My condolensces.

[O p h e l i a]

Oh Miss Daisy I'm so sorry for you! Hang in there. I know my words aren't comforting in the least. If you ever need a shoulder to cry on you may use mine.

[~»tobi«~]

Were you close to your dad? How far away was he and can you make his funeral?

Sorry to hear about his death. I did not know he was on dialysis.

[Scrooge McDuck]

Sorry to hear that Miss Daisy. My condolensces to you and your family.

[Gamoc]

Aww, I'm so sorry. Two losses in such a short period of time is horrible. I wish that I know how to be more empathetic for you, losing a parent has got to be horrible. We're here for you!

[📚 Dianne 📚]

I'm so very sorry Miss Daisy...

[Miss Daisy]

Mar 29, 2009 8:21:13 GMT -8 ~»tobi«~ said:

Were you close to your dad? How far away was he and can you make his funeral?

Sorry to hear about his death. I did not know he was on dialysis.

Yes and no, I lived with him back in 06 before coming to Vermont but we haven't spoke much because of his wife - he didn't even write on birthdays and christmas. I haven't talked to him in over a year and that's more upsetting than anything. My whole family is fighting and hating on each other and we've lost two members in two weeks. I've been telling them all day this needs to stop because I've had to call two of my dad's siblings over the fact that they're 'on the outs' with the rest of the family.

My grandma and my boyfriend's mom have both offered to pay for my plane ticket to Oklahoma but it doesn't seem fair because my brother is in Alaska and I know he can't afford to go.

[~»tobi«~]

Mar 29, 2009 8:42:24 GMT -8 Miss Daisy said:

Mar 29, 2009 8:21:13 GMT -8 ~»tobi«~ said:

Were you close to your dad? How far away was he and can you make his funeral?

Sorry to hear about his death. I did not know he was on dialysis.

Yes and no, I lived with him back in 06 before coming to Vermont but we haven't spoke much because of his wife - he didn't even write on birthdays and christmas. I haven't talked to him in over a year and that's more upsetting than anything. My whole family is fighting and hating on each other and we've lost two members in two weeks. I've been telling them all day this needs to stop because I've had to call two of my dad's siblings over the fact that they're 'on the outs' with the rest of the family.

My grandma and my boyfriend's mom have both offered to pay for my plane ticket to Oklahoma but it doesn't seem fair because my brother is in Alaska and I know he can't afford to go.

You should go. You need the closure and your chance to say goodbye to him. Will other family members that you are close to be there? So that you have emotional support?

[Miss Daisy]

yeah.. I just got off the phone with my aunt jo and she's going to try and make it, my uncle tim and my grandma are going. I'm trying to work out something for my brother right now, I don't feel right going without him.

[~»tobi«~]

Mar 29, 2009 9:07:08 GMT -8 Miss Daisy said:

yeah.. I just got off the phone with my aunt jo and she's going to try and make it, my uncle tim and my grandma are going. I'm trying to work out something for my brother right now, I don't feel right going without him.

But if he can't go. You should so you can represent your brother and yourself.

[ToriJ]

My thoughts are with you and your family. I know how it is. On my dad side of the family when someone dies it always seem to happen in threes I hope they won't be the case with you.

*hugs*

[Joy]

Miss Daisy I am so sorry. Diabetes is what caused health issues and death for my mom, dad, brother, and a niece in law.

Even if your brother can not go, maybe this is the chance you get to help the family put old grudges behind them. You can also share the memories with your brother.

[Miss Daisy]

thank you, everyone. -hugs-

Tori, I hope not either.. my great grandmother is in her late 80s and has type 2, with the way things have been going lately my mindset isn't exactly thinking positive.

Everyone else has also told me that I should go.. I have people willing to pay for it, but the thought of being there and seeing my dad dead isn't comforting. And I know that we can't afford for my boyfriend to leave work to travel with me, and that thought is even more difficult to deal with. He's been my support for years and I don't know if I can do it without him

This has all been so hard.. I wasn't even over Cody's death and now I have to deal with this, too.

[HoudiniDerek]

I am sorry to hear that you had another loss, Miss Daisy. I know it is going to be hard on you, but I hope you get the closure you need.