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Post by Teg on Oct 24, 2018 5:56:11 GMT -8
Everyone has had hardships at some point in their life. It could be money issues, death of a loved one, struggling with depression, etc. what are some hardships you have had to face and how did you overcome them?
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Post by wildmaven on Oct 24, 2018 6:15:24 GMT -8
- Had craniocynostosis at 5 months old, major skull surgery (180 stitches!), my lungs filled with fluid, and my spine was partially exposed at birth so they fixed that, too. Had an allergic reaction to the anesthetic and almost died.
- Was not allowed to participate in the coloring contests as a kid because "you always win" so I had to just sit there while everyone else competed.
- Got lost in the forest when I was 6.
- Mom constantly told me how pretty I would be if I wore makeup.
- Mom disparaged my art
- Ranch hand walked in on me when I was using the bathroom at an uncle's house and stood there and stared at me with a grin on his face
- Mom constantly compared my weight to my skinny as a rail sister.
- Random guy felt me up at Halloween when I was 13
- Boyfriend disparaged my art
- Told I could take horseback riding lessons if I got all A's. I did. They took back their promise.
- Opportunity to be in the national physics championship but parents wouldn't let me go
- Parents told me they would pay for college as long as I didn't study art
- Moved out at 16
- Slipped into a raging river and was carried downstream until I could grab onto a fallen tree and pull myself to shore.
- Broken tailbone x2
- All grandparents dead before I was 18.
- Husband #1 disparaged my art
- Husband #1 tried to kill himself
- Husband #1 became addicted to pain medications
- Husband #1 threw a coffee table at me
- Exposed to tuberculosis by a patient. Had to endure treatment for 6 months.
- Went through premature menopause at the age of 30, and thus cannot have kids.
- Went through hyperthyroidism WHILE going through menopause and had to have radioactive iodine therapy to deactivate the functioning of my thyroid.
- Major Depression, thoughts of suicide
- Broken back and Husband #1 took all of my pain relievers
- Was sexually harassed by a doctor at work and, when I reported him, my male coworkers refused to talk to me and blamed me.
- Being $60,000 in debt due to husband #1
- Being so broke that my coworkers made food baskets for me
- Watched the towers fall on 9/11 from the windows of where I worked.
- Divorce
- Jim (Husband #2) had 5 hour stomach surgery to fix the fact that his stomach had become attached to his heart and lungs
- Jim had 2 shoulder surgeries
- The death of multiple pets
- Jim had open heart surgery and I couldn't take time off for his recovery. Worked full time, drove 2 hours each way to the town where he was in the hospital every single day.
- I had a mini stroke
- Have psoriatic arthritis (walked with a cane for 1.5 years until they could figure it out).
- Currently am the only person in town who does what I do for work and can't call in sick, can't take time off, and am working overtime frequently.
- Yesterday, only one other person showed up for work's pumpkin carving contest and I found out no one else participated because "you always win."
This also doesn't include all of the patients who have told me their future plans while I am looking at their scan which shows they are only going to live maybe 3 months, the patient who asked me to help him die, and all of the other heart wrenching things that happened during 30+ years working in healthcare.
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Post by Søren on Oct 24, 2018 6:37:21 GMT -8
im disabled, be here all day to list everything XD - I was once refused to join a local disabled riding group for being too disabled
- was ignored all in early school and slightly abused by old tutors as they don’t understand disability at all
- is 2018 and still cant use a bus as it not wheelchair accessible
- cant easily use a train as have to book 24 hour in advance and still nobody turns up to help
- sometimes cant go down the street as people park on the pavement or there are no matching drop curb so need to go in the road and hope don’t get run over (been close couple times)
- can’t go in some shops either as they have steps or so cluttered that there is no path though
- I pay double for some places as they don’t offer carer discounts but I cant go to the place without a carer
- getting my degree almost didn’t happen as tutors kept assigning projects I couldn’t take part in, like once they abandon me once in a new town seriously just told me to go a places and walked off which be ok I guess if could walk but I had no idea where I was and there were roadworks everywhere and I cant use busses XD
will stop now but these are just past ten years or ongoing so not hardships I guess just annoyances lol Overcame them by being extremely stubborn, doing things my own way, ignoring people, and not taking no for an answer
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Post by Teg on Oct 24, 2018 6:54:03 GMT -8
Maven, you've been through a lot of crap So very sorry to hear about that stuff. Soren, it's a shame that people treat disabled people disrespectfully and like the plague like that. It actually sickens me to my core and I'm very upset and sorry that you've had to go through that. I realized, I didn't add any of my stuff so here goes: Childhood Hardships - My Mother abandoned me on my father's doorstep when I was four-years-old. - My father didn't want me and I ended up in the Foster Care System. - I tried to commit suicide when I was 13 and then again at 15. - I was in and out of foster homes and group homes for the better part of my adolescent life. - At 15, I was raped by a "friend" AND a foster brother. - At 17, I was home with my mom and molested by her brother who was drunk. - At 19, I had my first miscarriage. Adult Hardships - I got into and stayed in abusive relationships for years. - In 2012, I lost a disabled child to murder (she was 2-years-old). - I lost custody of two of my other children due to the previous statement and I've been fighting like hell to get them back ever since. - In 2016, I lost my house to the bank. - Later in 2016, I was diagnosed with Severe Depression, Anxiety, and PTSD. - Within a couple weeks of the previous diagnoses, I was diagnosed with Chronic Lymphocyte Leukemia (cancer of the blood).
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Post by wildmaven on Oct 24, 2018 8:21:43 GMT -8
Maven, you've been through a lot of crap So very sorry to hear about that stuff. Thanks. I had forgotten to add some things, which I've since added. Yours breaks my heart. (((hugs))) Søren I see everyday how poorly the disabled are treated and it makes me so angry. I find it horrible that you could not even find a safe place while getting your degree. That is awful!
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Post by Artemis on Oct 24, 2018 8:54:59 GMT -8
Yeah this could get long. So I think I'll focus on the main one, which is disability. For me that's primarily CFS/ME, and there are a few other things, but all under that general umbrella of symptoms and unknown causes. It's severely impeded my ability to work and go to school. I did end up finishing my first degree, but by the end it was really difficult. Going from a pretty active lifestyle to one where I'm all but stuck in bed from even minor exertion is a challenge when it comes to work, school, my social life, volunteering, etc. It's taken a few years, but it was a matter of learning pacing, getting the right assistive technology, and reframing it mentally so I'm not constantly beating myself up for not doing more things. It was about making a new schedule that worked for me, which was hard to figure out because my schedule was already erratic -- I was just capable of dealing with it back then. That's the very short version, but things are looking better now than they were before. It just took a lot of time and effort, and before I started figuring things out it was hard not to feel kinda despairing about the whole thing, like I'd never have a day where I wasn't stressed or miserable. And there are some other things I'm still dealing with outside of health, like deaths and abuse and things, but this is one of the big ones, so we'll stick with just the one.
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Post by Søren on Oct 24, 2018 11:17:56 GMT -8
Maven, you've been through a lot of crap So very sorry to hear about that stuff. Thanks. I had forgotten to add some things, which I've since added. Yours breaks my heart. (((hugs))) Søren I see everyday how poorly the disabled are treated and it makes me so angry. I find it horrible that you could not even find a safe place while getting your degree. That is awful! Baffling really, like how can they not think me as a wheelchair user it is stupid to put a lecture in a room on 3rd floor with no lift access
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Post by Artemis on Oct 24, 2018 11:43:37 GMT -8
Thanks. I had forgotten to add some things, which I've since added. Yours breaks my heart. (((hugs))) Søren I see everyday how poorly the disabled are treated and it makes me so angry. I find it horrible that you could not even find a safe place while getting your degree. That is awful! Baffling really, like how can they not think me as a wheelchair user it is stupid to put a lecture in a room on 3rd floor with no lift access I know this feel. A lot of buildings on my old campus were pretty ancient, built before the ADA, so they had no elevators. And... I can't do stairs. Luckily my school was really accommodating and actually moved the classroom to the first floor, but you still kind of have to go through a process. And before they did that, which took time, I needed help every time coming to and from class. If you don't map out everything before the semester starts like room locations, how to get between everything, whether the buildings are accessible or not, etc. you could get a few mean surprises.
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Post by Søren on Oct 24, 2018 12:13:10 GMT -8
Baffling really, like how can they not think me as a wheelchair user it is stupid to put a lecture in a room on 3rd floor with no lift access I know this feel. A lot of buildings on my old campus were pretty ancient, built before the ADA, so they had no elevators. And... I can't do stairs. Luckily my school was really accommodating and actually moved the classroom to the first floor, but you still kind of have to go through a process. And before they did that, which took time, I needed help every time coming to and from class. If you don't map out everything before the semester starts like room locations, how to get between everything, whether the buildings are accessible or not, etc. you could get a few mean surprises. Good they change it (: my campus was on a hill so knowing were things are was real important as there was different levels to everything and yeah one lift not working means 5min walk around you don't expect. which made me think of another issue, finding bathrooms can use without going to another building XD but that is new rant lol
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Post by 📚 Dianne 📚 on Oct 25, 2018 4:00:26 GMT -8
I'm older than most of you here and I make a concerted effort to forget about the horrible things that happened while I grew up. I just concentrate on the now:
I'm waiting to have a heart operation. I am not considered handi-capped *SNORT*. I can't breathe or walk very far most of the time. My insurance won't pay for anything but the heart operation.
My husband works two jobs because we can't afford to live on one income anymore and I can't work.
My mother has dementia and is now in a nursing home- she tries to beat everyone up and you should hear the things she calls me. I need to do the paperwork to get her on Medicare (Merry Christmas to me -I need to do this in December)
It's amazing how I can't remember things any more especially words.
I feel horrible for even adding to this thread when my issues are not even close to as bad as some.
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Post by Meryl on Oct 26, 2018 9:03:11 GMT -8
I've had many hardships in my life [verbal/mental/physical abuse, money worries etc]. I've had lots of good things in my life too. The worst hardship I've EVER endured, however, is suffering from OCD. I mean 'genuine' OCD. OCD deprived me of enjoying the simple things. OCD deprived me of my memory, when the children were small. OCD stopped me from enjoying relationships...friendly and romantic. OCD prevented me from enjoying family days out. OCD robbed me of 40 years of 'normal' life. Imagine feeling guilty, ashamed, not worthy and BAD. However, all through my nightmare years, no matter how depressed or anxious I was, I somehow managed to get up in the mornings, feed and clothe my children, support them and deal with their issues, attend parents evenings, clean the house, work part-time and deal with every day problems...including financial. I don't know how I coped, considering the state of my mind. All I can think of, is that a mother's protective, nurturing instinct kicks in/overrules any mental issues she may be suffering. It's like automatic pilot. One foot in front of the other....at least that's how I experienced it. [Sane mind talking over OCD mind] "no matter what you have 'done', or how you feel, your children need looking after". I'm proud of myself now. I still have OCD, but I know what it IS now. Years ago, I thought I was mad/bad. Now I think I'm strong. My children, who are now 31, 29, 25 and 22 are well aware of what I've been through/going through, and are so supportive. I'm proud of them too That's all.
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