Dating Within Professions

[Ameline]

I don't really think about getting married period. If I were though, it would definitely not be with someone I work with or even someone in my field. It just seems like a big  risk that it would damage my work. Even if we don't break up and continue to be together our relationship to each other might cloud our judgment. We would unconsciously be doing things for each other and our best interests, rather then the clients we serve. In the kind of field I have chosen to pursue that absolutely can not happen and would end both our careers potentially.

[Meryl]

May 6, 2019 7:49:25 GMT -8 HoudiniDerek said:

As you look at some job fields or professions, do you think that it is ultimately easier to date someone in the same field?

I always wonder why celebrities tend to date other celebrities, but maybe that makes it that much easier?  They know the grind, the constant cameras, the high publicity of everything they do.   It seems like there are some other professions that have this mindset as well.

Does your profession seem to have a lot dating between colleagues?  Did you date/marry someone in your field?

I don't think profession matters....although it seems to be prolific amongst people of certain careers...especially those who work in the public sector...married or in a relationship.  There tends to be affairs! 

Shared experiences do bring people closer together, but at the end of the day, it's a choice...not an excuse.

Personally, I'd rather be with someone who can offer 'different' news at the end of the day...gives us something to discuss and talk about 

[Shady]

My job would make it difficult to meet someone in the same profession who wasn’t also a colleague, since there is only one place to do my job in this town...and I would really not want to date someone I worked with. I actually met my husband as he was a former colleague of a former colleague, so I guess work is still a good way to meet people, but he has a totally different job.

[Alnarra]

I've always been of the opinion that you shouldn't date within your field, because the last thing you need is two people who specialize in the same thing living in a house together

[Retread]

May 11, 2019 8:00:17 GMT -8 Alnarra said:

I've always been of the opinion that you shouldn't date within your field, because the last thing you need is two people who specialize in the same thing living in a house together

Dating doesn't necessarily lead to marriage or even just living together. Could be FWB.

[Ameline]

May 11, 2019 8:04:28 GMT -8 Retread said:

May 11, 2019 8:00:17 GMT -8 Alnarra said:

I've always been of the opinion that you shouldn't date within your field, because the last thing you need is two people who specialize in the same thing living in a house together

Dating doesn't necessarily lead to marriage or even just living together. Could be FWB.

I'm no expert but I almost think that would cause more problems...One person always wants it to be more. At least that's what every  romantic comedy movie has me believing

[elli]

My husband and I are both web developers and we both work at the same company doing very similar jobs, albeit on different teams. We carpool to work and back home, have lunch together, and help each other with the areas we specialize in. He sits just a few desks behind me.

We didn't start this way, though. When we started dating, he was still in university and I worked elsewhere. Some time later, I started at this job and got him hired the following year.

It actually works very well that we're in the same profession. We teach each other new things, get excited about the same technologies, and complain about the same coworkers. 💅 And later, if one of us goes to a new and better job, we already have the perfect reference for another developer.

[Graham]

My current partner used to be in the web design/marketing field, tho left that a few years ago to pursue her real dream. Regardless, she appreciates the issues that I come across and understands the pressures that exist and is 100% supportive when I am under the kosh.


My previous partner also worked in the same field as my other job, in the same place, so understood the pressures and we could not only communicate about this outside of work, but also inside of work to help each other when necessary.


I have seen it break people and ruin things, but I have no issue if managed properly.

[Graham]

I've dated both a co-worker, and someone in the same profession (but not in the same company)- i've no issue with the same profession as they can understand the hours, the dedication and the stresses...however the same company I wouldn't recommend as the relationship becomes everyone elses' business, however hard you try to keep it from being so.

[:~:Sarapha:~:]

My husband and I started dating when we were still working together at a fast food place. I ended up quitting 9 months later to go on to a better job, while he was bumped up to management. It didn't interfere with work at all, so that was nice. It was a lot easier dating him than any ex. We had worked together for 3 years before, and established not only a deep friendship, but a very strong partnership, too. You have to learn to rely on your bagger when you're working drive thru, just as they have to be able to rely on you. So I definitely think that it is easier to date someone you work with in that aspect. But definitely, it would make things a lot harder if there's a breakup, so it's hit or miss, really.

[heatherly]

I think it's more about dating people you have things in common with, so same profession can fall into that. My SO are very much alike and have a lot of the same interests, but we're in different fields. We still talk to each other about work, but we do have to provide more background information about the work and what it entails before diving into the conversation further... just so we have a clue about what is going on lol

[sharon]

I've never dated anyone I've worked with but I worked with my husband's best friend who introduced us initially.

[johnwillis]

Does your profession seem to have a lot dating between colleagues?