Anyone w/o kids?

[recycledferret]

Anyone over 35 and not have kids? I'm just not sure if they're right for me.

[User 180565 is taking donation]

I'm 28 without kids and know people who had kids at 20 some as early as 15. Age doesnt define when you have kids. When you have a kid you better make sure you love that person. It's also not uncommon for single mothers to remarry. Life is a sensitive thing. You can fall in love with someone and love those kids like they're your own. DNA doesnt always define who you see family as.

[Shaliza]

I've never wanted my own kids and don't regret my decision at all. As long as I have fur babies, my life is good!

[ZandraJoi]

I'm in my 40's & child-free by choice. Decided at age 22 to never have kids. If you are not sure they are right for you, then don't have any. Too many people have kids out of tradition, family pressure & then the kid suffers. If you wanted kids, you'll feel it.

[wildmaven]

I'm childless due to premature menopause at 30 and am now 56. When I married my husband, he already had raised 5 kids to adulthood.

Kids were always something I wanted. I wanted to teach them about science and nature and art and show them the beauty of the world. Can't do that with our dogs.

My biggest fear is when I'm elderly with no one to help make decisions about my care once I can no longer do so.

[Artemis]

I'm a ways off from 35 yet, but I have no intentions of ever having children. I thought about it occasionally, but I would never have any children unless I was 110% invested.

[ScottCool]

Me and my wife are young, 27 & 31. We are having a hard time having kids and are actively seeing a doctor about having kids. I'm fine and my wife was recently told she can have kids but will have a hard time due to some medical reasons. We're trying and want kids, but it may not be in the cards. Who knows.

[Shady]

I’m 34 and decided to stop trying not to have kids around 6 years ago. Nothing has happened, and I originally decided that 35 would the cut off because i wouldn’t want to start any older. Not so sure on that now. We have decided that we don’t really want any medical intervention so to be honest it’s looking like it’s not on the cards for us. I think we’ve accepted that, and are at the stage where we’d be happy to have kids or happy without.

[:~:Sarapha:~:]

I'm not without kids, but I was t to warn strongly against basing your decision to have them or not have them off of other people's experience. Everyone is different, and no two people have the same circumstances. Personally, I spent the first half of my life strongly against the idea of children. I grew up in a very abusive environment that had been abusive for most of the generations before me. I feared not only that I would be inherently abusive too, but even if I wasn't, that the abusive generations before me would taint such precious lives. So I planned never to have that issue. Until I didn't. I met, fell in love with, and married my husband, and through his love and support, felt comfortable in having children. Now I have two, and was successfully able to end that abusive cycle.

But on the flip side, I know many women who have wanted them their whole lives, only to have them and their lives basically ended because it was not what they had dreamed of. I know many that weren't able to break the cycle of abuse. Everyone's circumstances are different, and no one can tell you whether they would be good or not for your situation.

[📚 Dianne 📚]

Aug 12, 2020 5:00:48 GMT -8 recycledferret said:

Anyone over 35 and not have kids? I'm just not sure if they're right for me.

I am way over 35 and my husband and I chose not to have kids. It was a good decision for us, since we realize that we are essentially selfish people. We came and went when we wanted without regard.  The only thing I've had to worry about are my pets. We are also thankful that we don't have anyone to dump our old age on.
That happened to us with two sets of parents and I am glad I'm not going to do it to anyone else.

We have had no regrets.

[Graham]

35, childless and single.

I often wonder if I would actually like children, or if it's just some social ideal that i've become conditioned to - like some sort of achievement that i've got to do to consider myself a real and proper adult.

Well, i'm not. I'm a hologram.

[ukschalke]

I am way over 35 and have 1 son and 2 granddaughters

[Meryl]

Aug 12, 2020 14:58:01 GMT -8 wildmaven said:

I'm childless due to premature menopause at 30 and am now 56. When I married my husband, he already had raised 5 kids to adulthood.

Kids were always something I wanted. I wanted to teach them about science and nature and art and show them the beauty of the world. Can't do that with our dogs.

My biggest fear is when I'm elderly with no one to help make decisions about my care once I can no longer do so.

❤️ You have a good relationship with your husband's children though, yes? You have friends. Sometimes blood isn't thicker than water, and sometimes offspring don't have your best interests at heart...only theirs. I'm sure you'll be looked after...if not, give the nursing home hell, like I will, if I'm in one!!! 😂😂😂

[ukschalke]

Aug 12, 2020 5:15:37 GMT -8 User 180565 is taking donation said:

I'm 28 without kids and know people who had kids at 20 some as early as 15. Age doesnt define when you have kids. When you have a kid you better make sure you love that person. It's also not uncommon for single mothers to remarry. Life is a sensitive thing. You can fall in love with someone and love those kids like they're your own. DNA doesnt always define who you see family as.

But the problem is , they are NOT your children and therefore you should leave them kids alone....I hate people who just come into a family and think they can take over and play step-daddy or step-mummy...Nah it doesnt wash with me in the slightest.Those children already have parents and dont need an outsider to come in and shout the odds or play step parent and as a child i would make it known to the new person that they couldnt tell me anything or order me around - NO WAY (but of course its only my opinion and nothing personal)

[Michelangelo "Spike" Scarlatti]

Aug 12, 2020 5:00:48 GMT -8 recycledferret said:

Anyone over 35 and not have kids? I'm just not sure if they're right for me.

I am going on 47 in a few months and I have no kids. 
I used to babysit my nieces and nephews when they were little and they kind of turned me off of ever wanting them. (They were always brats and never listened to me) 

And I didn't really ever want kids of my own because I worried my depression(s) would be handed down to them and I wouldn't want anyone to deal with what I've been through the past 25+ years. 

But I would love to adopt a kid or two sometime in the future.