Soulmate Time Limit

[Assembly Boards Representative]

There are people in this world who claim that there is someone out there for everyone, but what they fail to realize is the time frame a person has to meet that someone. How would we know our soulmate if we never meet them before we die?

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I believe the most important thing is making sure your own personal soul is happy enough before trying to get involved with someone else's. Theirs time for everything.

[HoudiniDerek]

Not only that, but people seem to believe their soul mate might live in the same geographic region as them. There are over 7 BILLION people on the planet. The odds that your soul mate lives within an hour's radius is ridiculous.

Additionally, people seem to assume they are close in age. What if your soul mate is 90 when you are born? Technically, you COULD meet and interact, but that doesn't imply an inherently romantic connection either.

Personally, I love the idea of a soul mate, but I think people have unrealistic expectations for them.

[wildmaven]

I’ve met mine, so it can happen.

[bigballofyarn]

My parents decided where I was born and where I lived. I met the love of my life in high school. Honestly, if my parents made different decisions and I went to a different school, I never would have met him and I likely would have fallen in love with someone else. Then again, if we're looking at things through an aspect of fate, my parents would have never made other decisions because I was destined to meet the love of my life exactly the way I did.

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Dec 31, 2021 7:37:29 GMT -8 HoudiniDerek said:

Not only that, but people seem to believe their soul mate might live in the same geographic region as them. There are over 7 BILLION people on the planet. The odds that your soul mate lives within an hour's radius is ridiculous.

Additionally, people seem to assume they are close in age. What if your soul mate is 90 when you are born? Technically, you COULD meet and interact, but that doesn't imply an inherently romantic connection either.

Personally, I love the idea of a soul mate, but I think people have unrealistic expectations for them.

Age in relationships are a werid thing, I'm 30 now and starting to find people in their 40s/50s more attractive to me, on the other hand I don't think I could date an 18 year old it would be way too immature and young for me but I may be okay with a 21 year old. I think personally I'd be more comfortable keeping it around 25-35. I was actually listening to a radio station one day and they brought up a good point people in age gaps wouldn't really have much to discuss because you've already gone through experiences they haven't. Although you could be a good advisor it's just all about maturity levels you can click with.

Of course money scandles in relationships are a thing too I've seen so many older people like 65 with 20 and 30 year olds just based on their income. Sugar daddy nonsense get rich quick schemes but who knows they could click.

[HoudiniDerek]

I also think that a person can have more than one soul mate.

But I also think that some people are so desperate to have this person, that they will sometimes overlook the bad or overlook the areas where they might not be in sync just so they have it.

It might seem like I'm being cynical, but I'm a romantic at heart. I just find it hard to believe that so many people believe they have truly met their soul mates, especially when they have lived in the same five mile radius their whole lives.

[Caajscot (John)]

I have been married for 47 years gone on December 4 this year so if my wife is not my soulmate by now then it is a funny old world we live in.

[Shady]

If you meet the right person at the right time, and it’s working out for you, they can be your soulmate. I don’t believe that there’s a predestined “right” person for everyone, which is how some people describe soulmates. That would actually be kind of depressing, as the chances of you meeting this person would be ridiculously small.

I say this as someone who has been in a relationship with the person who has become my soulmate for the last 12 years. The romantic in me wants to say that everything lined up in the right way so that we would meet each other and it was all fate (failing some exams and having to resit them got me a work placement in a certain place, which in turn led to a job in my husband’s hometown, and we met at a point where we were both looking for commitment etc etc..) but realistically I know that it’s just chance and I’m sure we may both have been happy meeting other people. Everyone has plenty of potential soulmates.

[Caajscot (John)]

I see your screen name in Japanese is 'It is a leaf in the wind', that sounds a wonderful screen name and you can be my soul mate too.

[recycledferret]

My soulmate is on pb support somewhere.

[bigballofyarn]

Jan 3, 2022 8:03:20 GMT -8 recycledferret said:

My soulmate is on pb support somewhere.

[wildmaven]

Jan 3, 2022 8:03:20 GMT -8 recycledferret said:

My soulmate is on pb support somewhere.

Mine too. Oh, there he is: Knightly Celt

[HoudiniDerek]

Jan 2, 2022 1:45:49 GMT -8 Shady said:

If you meet the right person at the right time, and it’s working out for you, they can be your soulmate. I don’t believe that there’s a predestined “right” person for everyone, which is how some people describe soulmates. That would actually be kind of depressing, as the chances of you meeting this person would be ridiculously small.

I say this as someone who has been in a relationship with the person who has become my soulmate for the last 12 years. The romantic in me wants to say that everything lined up in the right way so that we would meet each other and it was all fate (failing some exams and having to resit them got me a work placement in a certain place, which in turn led to a job in my husband’s hometown, and we met at a point where we were both looking for commitment etc etc..) but realistically I know that it’s just chance and I’m sure we may both have been happy meeting other people. Everyone has plenty of potential soulmates.

I definitely agree with your take on it, Shady.  Not something predestined or predetermined, but taking advantage of the situations that did happen and realizing you work well with that person.

[Alnarra]

So I've never been a huge fan of the concept of a soul mate. I've always been a big fan of www.youtube.com/watch?v=DCS6t6NUAGQ and trying not to have the soulmate mindset.