Soulmate Time Limit

[Gizzy]

I think if people believe they have found there soulmate then we should be happy for them but if you find someone you love without calling them your soulmate then you should also be happy. I believe life finds its own way of working out and it shouldn't be forced or worried about if something has not happened yet or within a certain timeframe.

[wildmaven]

Jan 15, 2022 1:38:29 GMT -8 Gizzy said:

I think if people believe they have found there soulmate then we should be happy for them but if you find someone you love without calling them your soulmate then you should also be happy. I believe life finds its own way of working out and it shouldn't be forced or worried about if something has not happened yet or within a certain timeframe.

That's a wonderful way of looking at it!

[Robyn]

Back when I was a teenager causing mayhem on here, I was extremely religious and had the belief that we all had met or known our soulmate before we were born. After I became an adult and finished a religious service that lasted two years, I went to a college with the mindset of not finding someone or getting married, because I wanted to focus on my education. However, the very first day of college I became friends with someone who I ended up marrying and starting a family with. Approaching six years in a few months, I reflect upon this experience and wonder the same question. Is there really such a thing as a soulmate, and do we really meet them before we die? Did I have a chance of not actually meeting my best friend?

I am no longer religious and have had a personal journey of change. While I'm not religious, I still acknowledge that I do not know everything in this world. I do believe that for some reason we as humans are able to click with certain people. But I do not know if that is always consistent. One of my friends as a teenager I bonded with and very much trusted with my dark secrets, we kept in contact for years and had the same minds. Until my journey changed and we became less connected. Now I rarely talk to them, not because I hate them, but because we have changed and no longer click as much.

There certainly is a possibility that my best friend and I may one day realize we no longer click, and we may go our separate ways. I'm not discounting this, but of course I do hope that in that situation we do make the best choices for ourselves and our family. But... were we meant to be? Were were predestined by a god or spiritual being to meet and get married? I'm not sure. I don't believe so, but I could be wrong. I think, however, that living life in this fear of finding the right one and worrying if we missed out on an opportunity isn't healthy. So live life to your fullest, and if you meet your soulmate then congradats! Just don't define your journey as to finding one.

[Zenlethic]

I've never been a big believer in the soulmate thing. I've always looked at finding a life partner as discovering who you are most compatible with, more than anything.

[wildmaven]

Jan 15, 2022 18:41:19 GMT -8 Zenlethic said:

I've never been a big believer in the soulmate thing. I've always looked at finding a life partner as discovering who you are most compatible with, more than anything.

Yes!!! Will that person be likely to stay with you when you're old or sick. Can you be happy with each other even if physical actions can no longer take place or they get dementia, for example. It's easy to get caught up in the "love of my life" aspect, but will they really be there for life? Can you discuss finances without drama, are your life goals compatible? 

[Zenlethic]

Exactly. The main thing to think about is, will they be there for you when you need it the most?

There have been too many who proved otherwise.

[alison22]

I have been with multiple guys until my fiancé. In my case I felt very different with him after knowing him. But labelling him as my soulmate is not something that I will do right now. I think one can know who their soulmate is after coming to a later age, when we understand and realize who we connected with the longest of time and willing to be with for the rest of the life. And this comes with a mutual feeling. Soulmate is definitely not a one sided thing. There will be faith, understanding and love. And we'll feel some stability and peace inside that will confirm the fact.